š š³šæ #67: A bestseller from New Zealand
Meg Mason on long-term mental health problems
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Sorrow and Bliss by New Zealand-born, Australia-based author Meg Mason is hardly a book that needs my review. Shortlisted for this yearās Womenās Prize and featuring jacket quotes from Gillian Anderson and Ann Patchett, this is a book that has received a lot of hype since its publication last year.
Sorrow and Bliss is narrated by Martha, a British magazine columnist who has been on and off antidepressants since she was 17-years-old. Marthaās world is small and she only maintains relationships with a handful of people. Thereās her husband, Patrick, a shy and sweet-natured consultant who Martha loves but cannot help pushing away; her protective and exasperated sister Ingrid; and her parents: Celia, a sculptor who is living with alcoholism; and Fergus, a failing poet.
Martha is acerbic, straight-talking, funny, and fiercely intelligent. The novel begins with a look at her separation from Patrick and goes on to tell the story of their marriage through flashes backwards and forwards over a twenty-year period. But the heart of the novel is Marthaās crushing and often debilitating experience of depression.
Normal people say, I canāt imagine feeling so bad Iād genuinely want to die. I do not try and explain that it isnāt that you want to die. It is that you know you are not supposed to be alive, feeling a tiredness that powders your bones, a tiredness with so much fear. The unnatural fact of living is something you must eventually fix.
Mason makes the interesting decision not to name Marthaās condition, even once she eventually receives a diagnosis. Instead it is referred to as āā āā. The point, I think, is to stop the reader medicalising Martha, like so many of her doctors, boyfriends, and friends have over the years. This forces the reader to concentrate on Marthaās lived experience and put any prejudices we may have aside in order to fairly consider what living with mental health problems does to a person, their marriage, and their family. I found it incredibly effective.
Martha is a funny and wonderfully dry narrator and I admired her sharp and precise observations about the world she inhabits. I also admired how Mason doesnāt let any of her characters off too easily: we see everyoneās weaknesses just as clearly as we see their strengths.Ā
āIām the worst person in the world.ā
āNo, youāre not.ā Patrickās hand came down in a fist and he hit the arm of the sofa. āYouāre not the best person in the world either, which is what you really think. Youāre the same as everybody else. But thatās harder for you, isnāt it. Youād rather be one or the other. The idea that you might be ordinary is unbearable.ā
I really loved this book. Itās stylistically uncomplicated and a quick read whose insights and deeply-observed characters are testament to a literary novel. I was in a bit of a reading slump when I picked up Sorrow and Bliss and it truly snapped me out of it. I can see why everyone is such a fan.
Sorrow and Bliss by Meg Mason (W&N, 2020)
More books by authors from New Zealand:
The New Animals by Pip Adam
Big Week & Other Stories by Airini Beautrais
The Stone WÄtÄ by Octavia Cade
The Luminaries by Eleanor Catton
No Manās Land by A. J. Fitzwater
Kurangaituku by Whiti Hereaka
Victory Park by Rachel Kerr
This Mortal Boy by Fiona Kidman
Greta and Valdin by Rebecca K Reilly
AuÄ by Becky Manawatu
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I am new to this space. I run a multi-cultural book club for high school students and staff- excited to learn here. I put this one on my good reads list. š
I'm looking forward to adding this one to my list. Sounds wonderful!